Aladin’s feelings
So so so chic! I just love my new belt I bought in London. It has a little Disney Aladin feeling but is chic at the same time. It bring a new wind through my looks. Even my hair catching that wind. You just have to imagine the magic carpet and I’ll be on my way.
What do you think?
Pictures: Joy Bomer
Styling & MUA: Elio Heres
The look: vintage coat from Marbles and Vintage, vintage bowtie from Het Kaufhaus, shirt is from Aliexpress, necklace is from Topshop en loafers are from Topman, vintage pants is from Bij ons vintage, watch is from Philippe Starck, belt is from brick lane market & clutch is from Diesel got from dress for less.
Koeskoes!
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This breaks my heart….. I can just imagine a little bit of your frustration and pain, because I have not walked in your shoes the last couple of months, but I understand. My father died when I was young, and sometimes I tell my friends who’s parents are divorced; I am better of than you, because my father can never let me down anymore. I cannot imagine what it must have been like for you, the shock, the expectation, and than to be let down again….. But know this, although they could not answer to what you wanted from them, unconditional love and acceptance for who you are and what you stand for, you know that they cannot let you go from their heart nor lives, eventhough it is not in the way that you want… I so understand your struggle.. and I feel so deeply for you… I just want to give you a virtual hug, just know that you are an inspiration for many !! Your work, your live, your boldness…. you matter, your live matters !! You are appreciated !! Big big hug for you Elio !!! xXx
<3 thanks for you super duper sweet words! Always no nice to see that my story can help others. Also to see that others care and share my believe in unconditional love.
The painful irony of this whole story is that God is exactly that, Unconditional Love.
Shout out to you for being brave enough to be exactly who you are, to believe in unconditional love and write about it (you never know who might need exactly your words today to be unapologetically themselves)
Thanks for your kind words <3
I’m so proud of you! I can never truly understand your pain, because i’m not in your shoes, but you speak so wisely. I love that you never speak bad about your parents, although they have hurt you so. It shows that you’ve out grown them and that you don’t let your live rule by hate or negativity. I think it says a lot that you try to understand everything they do, but they don’t do the same. It’s good to keep your distance, but like you said, they will always be your parents and therefor it’s (almost) impossible to close the door totally. This means they might hurt you again and maybe again, but if you shut the door now, it will also hurt, I think. Although I would totally understand if you did! I wish you strenght and a lot of love from the people around you. Wisdom you already have, ofcourse. (And looks ;-))
I did shut the door. But left it open for them when they are able to love unconditional. Thank you for you lovely comment.
Here comes my theory.
I think that they do love you unconditionaly, but they don’t love themselves enough to permit them to love you. I hope that you catch my drift here. I think that they will always love you but also always will feel like they shouldn’t or can’t.
PS. Love the hair <3
I don’t they understand what it means to love unconditional. Thanks for the reply and compliment <3
I don’t know you, but I al so damn proud of you! I just know for sure you inspire many many people.. What à story, what a life, what a strenght!❤️
& i love the look ? you look amazing in all of your pictures!!!! Xxxxx lots of love xxxxx
Thank you so much for your support and compliments. I hope I can keep on inspiring you with my looks and blogposts. ❤️ Koeskoes Elio
I had to shut the door on my father when I was a similar age, about 16 or so. It was horrible, it tore me up, but his perpetual inability to love me for who I was, who I wanted to be, his constant manipulation and guilt-tripping was destroying me.In hindsight, that perfect thing, I can see now that he was abusive. He then ensured that all of my family on his side never contacted me or spoke to me again, as he couldn’t stomach my problem was with him alone. It was only after we completely cut ties my mum told me that he was physically and mentally abusive towards her, and when she was pregnant with my little sisters he pushed her down the stairs as he didn’t want three children.
He messaged me on Facebook once about 5 years later to tell me he’d been looking for me for years (lies, of course, neither my mother or I had changed our numbers) and wanted to tell me my grandfather had died. I told him everything he didn’t want to hear (that I was successful and living life without guilt or fear) that he chose to close me out. He did the same with my little sisters after reaching out to them, and finding out they were lesbians. None of us fit into his limited world view, so we didn’t exist.
I found out that he died of liver cancer through a family friend two years ago. It was a strange day, and I cried a lot, but my mum asked me something that always resonated with me. She asked me… if he wasn’t dying, would you have contacted him? I answered no, because we had made our choices and I was a healthier person for not having him there. I grieved a lot for what could have been, for ‘what if’. But through that I found my family again, which has been a true blessing.
I feel like your story resonates a lot with me. Maybe it’s because I grew up feeling like love was conditional. Sometimes I forget that it isn’t, and I just wanted to say thank you for reminding me of that. You’re an incredibly strong person, so thank you, and keep on being you in the most fabulous way!
Wow, you’ve been through so much too. Thank you for sharing yours. Good that you stood up to your father. I hope I can keep on supporting and inspiring you to be yourself and love unconditionally with my personal blogpost and looks. Koeskoes <3
I saw your story on Humans of Amsterdam. What a brave person you are. I was lucky with my parents, I came out and they accepted me and my relationships whole-heartedly. My grandparents were another story. 5 years after coming out to them they still can’t accept it. It’s hard when all you’re doing is living your life and they can’t get past it. I know my situation is different but the only thing I can think to say is that you continue living your life and being the best person you can be. I hope that eventually your patents learn to accept you for who God intended you to be.
Although it may seem my story is much more difficult, I never think like that. Each person has to face difficulties and may feel just as bad as what an other person has to face. I’m sorry to hear that your grandparents don’t support you being you. Are your parents any help in that? Thanks for sharing your difficulties with my and my blog. I hope I can keep on inspiring with my personal blog and looks. I hope you know your are strong and keep on living the live you want to life. Koeskoes <3
I’am proud to know you. Be yourself my lovely friend. It is not important what you are, but who you are. Your parents miss a lot. Open minded people accept you as you are. Have fun in Vietnam and Thailand. Huggs and kisses from………….me!
Thanks sweetie! See you when I get back <3